Monday, April 30, 2012

Try Something New: Week 17


April 22 -- Watched an episode of Sherlock Holmes. There's a pretty good BBC series out there, starring Benedict Cumberbatch (yes, that's a real name). It's supposedly more true to the original stories, but set in modern times. We really like it so far.

April 23 -- Went to see The Lucky One with my friend Melissa. But you already know how I feel about that from my last post.

April 24 -- Gave my first official piano lesson to my first student here in Midland! I have been waiting so long for the day I would have my own piano, in my own home, with my own special room for piano lessons. This is really exciting for me.

April 25 -- Opened up the Topsy Turvy tomato planter my mother-in-law got me years ago, and actually planted something! I put two small tomato plants in that little contraption. filled it with soil and plant food...then realized my house has not a single place I can hang it. No wooden beams to screw the hook into! Still working on figuring this out.

April 26 -- Sent Josh to work with Matt for a couple hours. It was Take-Your-Kid-To-Work Day, and he had such a fun time. I am furious that no pictures were taken in the office! This holiday was always a fake one to me when I was little. No one actually got to go with their parents to work. That idea was preposterous! Did any of you actually get to participate in this when you were growing up? I think it's awesome.

April 27 -- Tried a new recipe: toffee chocolate chip bars. They are yummy, and something different. As usual, I've been eating some with every meal, and in between.

April 28 -- Read a new article, which I found posted by a friend on Facebook. (That's right, I've been using Facebook this week. Are you proud of me for trying to improve my long-distance social life?) This article is about Mitt Romney, explaining the religious garments he wears, hopefully proving that it is a non-issue in the election. The author does a really good job of explaining it clearly, and being a Latter-day Saint myself, that matters to me.

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Justification for Chick Flicks


Dear Nicholas Sparks,

I know your secret. I've got you all figured out. You are a woman trapped inside a man's body.

How else could you come up with the most picture-perfect male love interests, with slight variations, in each of your many books? How do you think and desire like a woman if, in fact, you do not have the correct plumbing? Do you take estrogen? Are you a psychiatrist for desperate love-stricken females? Seriously, do you like men??

Let's look at the resume of, for example, Zac Efron's character in "The Lucky One":


- 25 years old
- Marine Corps veteran
- Lost and confused coming home from the war, adding mystery and vulnerability.
- Has real man survival skills. Can walk halfway across the country with nothing but his dog and a backpack, sleeping in fields and whatnot.
- Incredibly hard-working, not an ounce of lazy.
- Loves animals and is good with kids.
- Fiercely protective of women and children.
- Lacks the testosterone-fueled urge to pick a fight when idiots come around.
- Plays the piano. I repeat, plays the piano.
- Fixes things, like tractors, boats, showers and old houses.
- Does the dishes.
- Goes to church with the family.
- Capable of friendship before romance.

Roll all this into a shirt full of muscles, top it off with a nice set of eyes, and every female in the audience is a goner.

It doesn't matter who you are, or what your idea of the perfect man is. When you read a Nick Sparks book, or watch one of his movies, any preconceived preferences go out the window. For a while, you will picture that fictional person and almost believe that this is what you've wanted all along.

Reality will try to bring you back down to earth: What's that? The guy doesn't have any education whatsoever? Who needs it! What? He's only 5'7" in real life? Not a problem! As long as he can speak with his eyes and radiate undying love through his muscles, he is The One.

Seriously though, Nicholas, how do you know what women want?? Can you read minds? If you do not explain yourself, I'll be forced to believe that you truly are a woman, writing books about your own fantasies or embellished life experiences. I simply will not believe that a man can get inside my head.

With love and fear,
Mimi

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I could send Mr. Sparks this letter, along with some other hate mail about how he gives women an unrealistic idea of men and causes our expectations to be too high for reality, thus ruining our romantic relationships. He's right up there with Stephenie Meyer, except at least she created characters that are obviously not possible to find in the real world. Spoiler alert, girls -- you will NEVER find a man exactly like Edward Cullen because undead vampires simply do not exist. What's your safety net, Nick?


However, I will not send this. My romantic relationship actually does not suffer one bit after I read/watch the stories of Nicholas Sparks, and it's not just because their ultra-predictable plots keep my brain from being fully absorbed.

It's because after I'm through, my rational side makes me stop and think. I think about what it is that made that muscley-armed actor seem so dreamy in the story. Because that's all he was -- an actor, pretending to be something he was not. And I think about what it is that attracts me to my husband, and how, with the right amount of cheesiness and cinematography, our story could be just as emotionally thrilling as any. (So could yours, by the way.)

I met my Matt right after he came home from his mission. Two years of traveling almost everywhere on foot in the Brazilian sun had given him a delicious tan (as long as he kept his shirt on) and a cute little accent sometimes. He was a little lost and vulnerable, assimilating back into the college world of dating after spending so long with smelly boys for companions. He was my friend first, my boyfriend second. He is fiercely protective of me and of his children. He is athletic. He is kind and compassionate to everyone. He gets better looking every day. He is well educated. He is a hard worker. He fixes things. He does the dishes. He cooks. He plays the piano. And the guitar, and the trumpet, and he sings. He takes me to church every Sunday. And he sweeps me off my feet like no one else ever could.

How's that for REAL romance, Nicky-poo?

So husbands out there, here is my two cents on what you can do to improve a marriage: let your ladies have their chick flicks! And let them experience these chick flicks with other chicks, so they can enjoy the flick, without your gagging sounds and audible eye-rolls interrupting every deliciously romantic moment on screen. If you're lucky, in your lady's eyes, she will become The Girl and you will become The Boy, and she will come home with kisses, after having watched your love story unfold all over again in a new way.


Yes, Nicholas Sparks has a style that is undeniably corny. A lot of his story lines and characters stray just far enough away from reality that they are not believable. But I have to admit, sometimes they get to me. That little love fantasy world of his is an emotional ride I just can't resist!


Thursday, April 26, 2012

Things Spring Break Broke


1. My cell phone


3. My promise that I would never take 
the boys home again by myself

Redding again. We go there a lot. Can't help it. Pressure from the grandparents sucks us in. Maybe when Jude is two and another plane ticket is added to the cost, my parents will give it a rest.

This was a very last minute trip. The story starts when Matt was going to San Antonio for work, and our plans to go with him didn't work out. I was feeling down one day about being alone again with the kids, and then I discovered that it would actually be Josh's spring break. So we would have nothing to do at home, no school or gymnastics, and I would get zero mommy breaks all week. Insert double sad face here.

Without thinking, I texted my mom, telling her we'd be alone again and that I wished we had bought her a plane ticket to come spend the week with us. When she shared this with my dad, it turned into a full-on pressure attack to come home for Easter. All the siblings would work out a way to get home if I would. It was the perfect timing because my dad had a couple days off work. They would pay half the cost of plane tickets. Blah blahdy blah.

The main downsides would be prolonging my time away from Matt, making the long trip with the boys by myself (which I said a few months ago I would never do again), and the huge cost of booking plane tickets last minute.

BUT, I really really felt like I should go this time. Not sure why, but I needed to toughen up make it happen.

Matt figured out a way he could meet us in Redding after his San Antonio trip and stay for five days only using one day of vacation time. He hadn't been to Redding in almost a year, so this was exciting. Then some guardian angel got him bumped from one of his flights, and ended up getting him a huge Delta voucher and an extra day at home with us before his work trip. Bonus!

I found plane tickets for myself and the boys that were not ideal, but the boys did considerably well on the three planes, two layovers, and long drive. We didn't roll into Grandma's house until 4 a.m. Eastern time, but we made it without too many tears (and none from me, which is an accomplishment).

And now I will once again show you too many pictures with explanatory comments. Sorry, it's not my fault everyone takes a ton of pictures at my house and I get a digital copy of every single one. I have to post them. My hands are tied!


Like all Redding trips, this one involved a lot of junk food and a lot of attempts to work off the calories. My mom and sisters and I worked out together a few times. One day we took the boys on a little run around the neighborhood. They weren't very comfortable in the single jogger together, so I got stuck run-walking hunched over pushing Jude in an umbrella stroller. (They don't make those for taller-than-average people. Or for running.) Not a great workout, but it was really fun. 

Another night we took a long walk down to the river and skipped rocks with the boys. This was to prime our bodies for all the frozen yogurt we planned to consume afterwards. 


Jude had plenty to do at Grandma's house, but his favorite activity was standing at the back windows looking for the cats. He created his own sound for "cat" (kind of like "ttts") and called it every time anyone mentioned going outside.

He also got lots of attention from his aunts and uncles. He was immediately attached to them. He went right to Julia the first day, loved Steven's man voice, and made Steph carry him through the mall for hours. When Melissa got in from Utah, I hardly even saw my baby the rest of the week. My brother and sisters are going to be amazing parents someday.


On Good Friday, we left the little boys with my mom and the rest of us drove up to Mt. Shasta. Growing up, I went skiing/snowboarding all the time because the mountain is only an hour from Redding. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to do it anymore after a seven year break, but my legs remembered. I had forgotten how much I love snowboarding! I could have been happy doing that every day all week! It was perfect -- nice weather, no crowds. Plus I got to teach my little sister to snowboard, and to see my man's ski skills for the first time, so it was an amazing day.



My dad used his Go Pro camera a lot that day. It's a little video camera you can stick anywhere, so he put it on his head and followed us all around the mountain, recording while he skied. Here's a video before we left that morning.


Nothing better than a good meal and hot jacuzzi after a day of snowboarding.


Josh had a really fun day with Grandma. She took the boys bowling and to see the ducks by the river. See how he's stealing that nice lady's popcorn to feed the birds?


That Saturday, we helped my dad work in the yard. Josh mowed the lawn.


We cleared out the old garden area and ripped up the grass where the new one would go. This one will be closer to the house, easier to tend, and right next to my grandmas' window so she can watch everything grow. 


My 96-year-old grandma lives in the apartment connected to the garage (those windows in the background). She is great. She hates being decrepit, and says so all the time. She wants to be as independent as possible. We took her to the grocery store one day and she couldn't hide the joy on her face when she got to drive her own scooter cart up and down every aisle, and when we found every single thing on her list. I wish I had taken a picture. She lives for Josh's hugs and Jude's long meaningful stares.


That weekend Josh worked on his baseball skills and his man skills -- walking around with his shirt off like Uncle Steven, and starting fires. Jude just crawled around trying not scrape up his chubby legs too much. Walk, boy! That will solve your problems!


Josh dyed Easter eggs for the first time with Aunt Julia and Grandma Sara. He really really loved it, if you can't tell by his face.



I helped out the Easter bunny that night. For having mostly grown up kids who don't really appreciate anything, she still does a great job with festive things like this.


After church on Easter Sunday, we spent the afternoon relaxing in the warm backyard.


We shot pellet guns at soda cans on the fence. I got one shot in before my phone fell out of my dress and got destroyed on the concrete. Josh thought he was pretty hard core.


We took turns hiding Easter eggs for him around the pool area.


Matt and I made his amazing Amados steak and guac nachoes for everyone.


Little Superbaby gets to do whatever he wants at Grandma's house...even sit on the table and go fishing in Steven's water glass.


The next night Julia had gymnastics. We wanted to see her new tumbling tricks, so a bunch of us went to pick her up and watch the end.


Round off back flip twist! I don't think she'll have a problem making the high school cheer squad (ahem...unfortunately) with a trick like this up her sleeve. Sorry, nothing against cheerleading. It's just that Julia is amazing at basketball and volleyball, so the tomboy in me would rather she stuck with those.


After seeing Julia's flips, some people thought they had something to prove. That's my mother doing the Crane and a headstand. First attempt! She's awesome.


On Steph's last day at home, she cleared her busy social schedule to take care of everyone's beauty needs. She spent hours cutting and coloring hair...right after she waxed Steven's chest and belly. OUCH. Unnecessary!


On our last night we went to Red Robin with the family, just like old times. This was the place to eat when I was growing up. Redding has changed a lot since then.


One last couch snuggle before we said our goodbyes. The kids and I would leave at 3:30 the next morning to head to the airport. In order to keep this post pleasant, we'll leave that part of the story out.


As hard as traveling is on all of us, there were a lot of little things that worked out just right enough to make me think we were really supposed to make this trip. I'm glad we went. Now hopefully we're good until Christmas....

Monday, April 23, 2012

Try Something New: Week 16

April 15 -- Had our first little barbecue here at home with some neighborhood friends. Matt fired up the grill, I skewered shish kabobs while chatting with my lady friends, and the kids ran around the backyard like it was a warm, mid-summer night. Neighborhood BBQ night! Never thought we'd get to that point in our lives, with all the apartments and moves we've been through so far. Stability is nice!

April 16 -- Finally used that vanilla extract we made. Josh and I made chocolate chip cookies with M&Ms leftover from Easter. They were so so delicious! (To the adults, anyway. Josh said he didn't really like them.) That vanilla really did make a difference.


April 17 -- Set our new pet butterfly free. I think I'm a little freaked out by butterflies when they're close enough to touch me. Too much leg and fuzz on those bodies to be cute up close. I was sort of expecting this one to slap me in the face on its way out for keeping him/her in a tupperware like that, or attack me like an angry tracker jacker. But I manned up, opened the container outside, and the butterfly did not attack. All is well. I also wore my new bright blue pants that day.

April 18 -- Went to GFS for the first time, a bulk grocery store in town that I've been wanting to try forever. It's the closest thing we have to Costco around here, and I like it!

By the way, do you love Jude's fresh buzz cut as much as I do? Josh got one too that night. Sooooo handsome.


April 19 -- Spontaneously had my first piano lesson with Josh! It was adorable. I was looking through a new Faber book at the piano when he sat right next to me on the bench all excited about the pictures I was looking at. Then we started doing some activities and singing some songs together and got through a few pages! 

All this time I was thinking piano lessons probably wouldn't work for him if I was the teacher because he wouldn't respond to his mother like he would to someone else, but I was so impressed with his attention span and his good listening. He even cooperated enough to play a little duet with me. Success! I am beyond excited to pass on this skill to my Josh. It feels amazing to be able to share with him something that I love so much, that has played a huge role in my life.


April 20 -- Read through some more beginner Faber piano books to see what I want to use for my students. I had never seen this method before and I'm loving it for young beginners.

April 21 -- Bought a bunch of tomato plants, strawberry plants, and fruit trees for our backyard! I chose a variety of each to see which I like best, because I know nothing about gardening yet and am learning as I go. Hopefully we'll get them in the ground later today.




Wednesday, April 18, 2012

ITALY: Part 3 Venice



Day 8
VENICE

First of all, this is how I feel about Venice:



In a word: SMITTEN.

Now that you have that little summary, here are the details.

After arriving on the train (March 11) and being confused at the map for a while, we finally found our hotel. We didn't realize that "streets" on the map translated into hidden, three-foot-wide alleyways, but that's how it is on a magical island with no cars. After checking in and dropping off our luggage, we set out to explore. Our only set plan for the day was to find our way to St. Mark's Square and to eat good food.

We walked all the way across Venice and found a scrumptious little sandwich place called Bar Verde. We ate lunch and a long-awaited canoli on a bench by the water. Then we entered St. Mark's Square and took some silly pictures. The top of the Campanile reminded me of a Christmas tree, so here I am putting the star on top.




St. Mark's is the square with a million pigeons, where everyone tries to get pictures touching them. It is disgusting. These pigeons have no fear. I almost accidentally stepped on them a few times, and had to duck more that once so they wouldn't fly directly into my face. Sick.


While we were standing in the square trying to decide what to do next, we looked around at our museum options and realized that we were both a little burnt out. More than a little burnt out. In fact, when we decided not to see any museums that day, and to just wander instead, we were both filled with such giddy relief that we kind of threw the rest of our plans out the window.

I mean, just look at all our museum stubs from the previous five days. That much high quality art and history crammed into a few days was total sensory overload. It was exhausting! (In the best way, of course.)


"Wandering" might not sound that great at first, but when this is what you see in every direction, it's  a pretty amazing activity.


Day 9

We woke up late, had breakfast at our charming little hotel, and went out to buy vaporetti tickets. We rode down the Grand Canal listening to an audio tour explaining all kinds of wonderful things about the beautiful buildings. I wish we could have seen Venice in its prime. It was the Vegas of Europe. As beautiful as it is now, I can't hardly imagine what it was like a few hundred years ago!

After the tour we found the Church of San Zaccaria, where we saw some art and the final resting place of John the Baptist's father. Later, we toured Frari Church, which features works by Donatello and Titian.


This was also the day that we discovered Venice's best gelato. One scoop strawberry, one scoop lemon, on a cone, from La Boutique del Gelato. I can only imagine how much more delicious is would be on a hot summer day!

How is it possible that I have not a single picture of us eating gelato? Especially when we had it twice a day? I must have enjoying it too much to think about anything else.

Here, I made Matt stand in front of some pretty apartments while eating his real Italian pizza. We were right outside a tiny museum that had a free exhibit on Vivaldi. That's the great thing about wandering. See something you might like to do? Go ahead! There's no schedule, just time.


The downside to wandering is sometimes you get lost. At night. Where no tourists go, and no one else is around to ask for directions back to your hotel. When you really really really have to pee and you're walking in circles because you can't think straight. That was an adventure. We eventually walked up to a place where we saw cars and roads (which we hadn't seen in a couple days), and were a little afraid we had wandered right off the island! But no, it was just the bus station, where people catch rides across the bridge to the mainland. Phew!

Before I finish with Venice, I need to write a little about the language. Italian spoken by Italians is so so so beautiful! If I could only speak Italian...I'm sure I could get anything I want out of anyone.  My words wouldn't even matter, just the sound of the accent would be enough! 

It was fun trying to translate the menus and receipts and artwork explanations into English. Matt's Portuguese helped a lot, along with some over-the-phone Italian grammar lessons from his sister Michelle. Add that to the bit I learned before our trip, and we got by alright.

I had never been immersed in another culture and language until this trip. (Well...as immersed as you can be in tourist cities.) There's something really exciting and romantic about it. Matt was the only person who sounded normal and familiar to me. Yes, there were plenty of American tourists, but the people we talked to were Italians -- hoteliers, restaurant servers, security guards, ticket agents -- all of whom spoke broken English (if any) with thick accents. That, combined with all the languages we heard from other foreign tourists, added to the magic. The magic of my husband and me being in our own little world surrounded by strangers.

On the other non-romantic hand, there was cigarette smoke everywhere. Like ev-er-y-where. I won't be surprised if I eventually die of lung cancer just from the ten days I spent walking the streets of Italy.

Also, since we're being unromantic, I noticed that Europe (meaning Frankfurt and Italy) has the weirdest collection of toilets I've ever experienced. I sat on a different kind of toilet every single day! What is with that? You'd think there was a competition to see who could make the weirdest shaped receptacle for human waste, with the flusher in the most hidden, obscure place possible. Like it was an art form. Or a strange game among janitors. Rectangles, ovals, circles, tall backs, no backs, seats, no seats (yuck), little flush/big flush options. What are they working on over there? Are the toilets just to distract us from something bigger? Only time will tell. I know, I should've taken toilet pictures.

Anyway...

Day 10

This was our last day. It's sad even to think about!

First thing, we caught a vaporetti out to the little island of Murano, where the glass-blowing factories are. Venice has a few islands in its lagoon -- one known for its lace, one for glass, one for its very old church, and one serves as a cemetery. We went to Murano hoping to see some glass-blowing demonstrations, but we went at the wrong time of day. So we ended up browsing the cute little glass shops and thinking about everything our boys would break if they were there. We left with a pair of earrings and that's all.


After the ride back, we entered St. Mark's Basilica. We had an audio tour for this one and it was incredible to learn about. The inside walls, ceilings, and floors are covered with gold mosaics and colored marble. It contains 4,750 square yards of Byzantine mosaics. The floor rolls like waves because its foundation has been warped over time from the water underneath. Over the body of St. Mark stands an altarpiece (Pala d'Oro) of the most vibrant gold, decorated in religious scenes and studded with hundreds of valuable stones like emeralds, pearls, sapphires, rubies, topaz. It was unbelievable! I think pictures were not allowed inside, so here are some from the outside porch.

The floor


After seeing the Basilica, we listened to another audio tour about St. Mark's Square while we stood and watched people try to take pictures with pigeons on their arms.

Those are my new glass earrings.
This is the Doge's (Duke's) Palace, which is connects to the Basilica. We didn't go inside, but it was very pink and beautiful.



I was really impressed with the clock tower in the square (Torre dell'Orologio). I like how the face has all twenty-four hours on it. That's also one of the world's first "digital" clocks up there, with its numbers flipping every five minutes.



3:00 in Roman Numerals
We decided to ride the water bus back up the Grand Canal and stop at the famous Rialto bridge and walk around. The bridge is bigger than most, with shops in the middle and pretty white arches.


We saw many many gondolas with their striped gondoliers (none of whom looked like Fabio, by the way), but didn't feel like forking out the cash for our own ride. Just having them around for ambiance was enough. We even got to see a big guy standing up in the boat singing opera for his customers! Which was cool, but I think it would've cost about 150 Euro. Crazy.


I couldn't resist taking this picture, for memory's sake. Every single building had laundry strung up somewhere. It just added more color and character and Italian-ness to the streets. I loved it!


After getting more gelato and Matt haggling for a bag of squishy splat ball souvenirs, we weren't hungry for dinner until late. There was a kebab place right by our hotel, so we ate those again and decided we should have been going there every day. A delicious way to end the trip!

Day 11 

On March 14th, we woke up at 4:00 am to catch the bus to the Venice airport and start our trip home. I watched Tower Heist on the airplane, listened to a beautiful recording of Les Miserables, read more of The Agony and the Ecstasy, and did a bunch of my nerdy little word puzzle games. Sounds kind of boring, but it was actually nice to be able to sit for a whole day instead of walking for hours and hours. My feet were tired. It was also my last chance to relax before returning to full-time motherhood. (Which I was actually really excited about, by the way. Vacations have a way of helping me appreciate my normal life.)

What better way to end a post about the beautiful country of Italy than with a cell phone picture of a real frankfurter in the Frankfurt Germany airport?


I know a better way...a cell phone picture of me gagging over a real frankfurter at the Frankfurt airport.


On that trip home, I cannot describe the excitement and anticipation we both felt to get home and see our boys. It really started to get intense when we walked off the last plane, waited to get through customs, waited for the shuttle to our car, endured the long 2.5 hour drive home, not even stopping for food because we didn't want to miss the boys, just in case they were staying up past bedtime to wait for us. It was silly, but we didn't want to waste a single minute!

That night, this is what we found waiting for us on our garage door. Not Josh -- he was asleep already. But he made these precious welcome home signs that just about made me cry.


The next morning, when the boys woke up and all four of us were snuggling together in Josh's little bed, I felt complete. I felt a level happiness that could not be achieved anywhere or with anyone else. And that's really saying something, considering I just came from the best vacation of my life with the man I love more than anyone in this world. 

What I'm trying to say is, even seeing all the amazing things we saw in Italy, being in those beautiful cities that I've dreamed of visiting for years, and being together 24/7 with my soul mate for the longest continuous stretch of time since we've known each other, there's actually something even better. The feeling I had when I came home and held my whole family in my arms after a long absence topped every experience from the last ten days. Honestly. There is nothing better. It gave me a good dose of perspective, of what my job is in life and why it's more important than anything else I could be doing right now.

It's good to know that I would not be happy spending time away from them. It's good to get a reminder of how much I love them, as hard as my job is sometimes. It's good to know that I love my husband enough that I don't get the least bit sick of him after spending eleven days together, rarely being more than an arm's length apart.

Everyone, you should go to Italy. It's good for the soul. Maybe not so good for your lungs or your belly pooch or your bank account, but good for everything else.